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"Good" Parenting is Worth the Effort

Posted by Doug Giese on Monday, January 26, 2015 @ 12:00 PM

When a person is driven to be successful too often that success comes at a cost.  If the person driven for success is a parent, the cost can be not really knowing their own children.  How sad.  A person like this devotes too much time and effort to things that don’t really matter.  What really matters is who our children are becoming and how they will influence generations to come.  Being a “good” parent does matter and it takes hard work and prayer.   Your children are worth all the effort it takes.  They deserve being a priority in your life.  

Being a “good” parent does not mean giving your child everything that they want. Children need a parent, not just another “friend,” though friendship is one of the end results when children know their life matters to their parents.   Children need a foundation of faith to sustain them when they experience difficult times.   Children need a safe place where they can fail, learn, build meaningful relationships and grow. 

At the 1992 Youth Ministry University Conference in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, Dr. Roland Martenson said, “One of the things that has occurred across this country is that the primary life places, where young men and women had anchorage and orientation, have largely either fragmented or have lost their influence in the young people’s lives.  So we have kids who have little anchorage and little place to crash.”  Families are very important to children.  Martenson noted children and youth today say, “I want a safe place where I can crash.  I want a gray place where people will tell the truth, where I can go and I know I will be safe.”  When teens were asked where this is, they say, “I’d like for this to be at home.”  One-third says, “Home is a safe place.”  Another third says, “I don’t know.”  And the last third says, “Home is the most dangerous place to live.  It is a warzone; I have to always be on the defensive.”   What kind of atmosphere are you creating in your home?

No one has more potential to impact your child or teenager than you.  But I want to encourage you that you do not have to parent alone.  Parenting can be very discouraging if attempted alone.  All parents have certain limitations, but when we tap into the strength and wisdom of others we are able to parent far beyond our capacity! 

 One of the ways you can impact the life of your child is to become intentional about partnering with others who can also have influence with your child.  You need to be intentional on widening the circles of influence in the lives of your sons and daughters!

Starting Wednesday January 28th at 6:15pm at The Covenant, is a parenting class entitled, How We Love Our Kids.  Please plan to join other parents as we learn together the surprising dynamics that shape our parenting.  Parents (of every stage in parenting) and grand-parents are encouraged to attend this class.  Sometimes we just need to be reminded what is most important. 

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