Are you creating a relational atmosphere where your children can come to you when they are in need? How you respond to your child’s emotions and feelings can change a life, restore a relationship and convey a deep message of love. Ignoring, diminishing or rejecting your child’s emotions pushes them further away.
Parenting can take a dramatic turn when you take a step back from your daily life to evaluate yourself and your parenting. By recognizing where you are at and by making appropriate changes you could greatly improve your relationship with your children. Looking back at your childhood and contemplating how you were parented, can help give perspective; you can see where you might be struggling and pinpoint areas where you need to grow. As you think about how you were parented ask yourself these questions: How did my parents manage the stresses of life? Did my parents manage their stress or did that stress manage them? How well did my parents express their feelings and emotions with each other and with me? Were my parents really in tune to me as a child? Did my parents really listen to me as I expressed to them how I was feeling? The purpose of looking back at how you were parented is not to blame your parents for your behavior but rather to chart a path of growth so you can be a better parent. Taking a close look at how you were brought up will help you to pinpoint your defenses and difficulties you may have inherited from your family of origin.
Are you ready to make some changes—to see yourself honestly and grow? If you are ready to make changes in your life, be encouraged by the words from Joshua. God is with you through every change you feel necessary to make. Joshua 1:9, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” With an open mind, you’ll begin to see yourself as you really are, and your view of your child as the source of your problem will begin to change. When you discover your own weaknesses and begin making positive changes that improve your parenting, it may lead to more enjoyment in your relationships.