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No Perfect Parent or Family

Posted by Doug Giese on Tuesday, March 18, 2014 @ 3:02 PM

Milan and Kay Yerkovich, authors of the book, How We Love Our Kids said, “There is no perfect parent; just a growing parent and God can use even our weakness to work out His good plans for our kids.”   I would add that there is no such thing as a perfect family; just a growing family and God can do amazing things through the weaknesses in our families. Sometimes teenagers may picture what they think other families are like; in their mind they have just a mental snapshot of this “perfect” family.  When they see only a glimpse of their friends’ families they will likely come to some inaccurate conclusions about that family.   This snapshot has everyone in that family dressed perfectly and living in a house nicer than most.  Everyone is smiling and making the appearance of perfect family relationships.   If they could only live with this “perfect” family for a week and then they would discover that there is no such thing as a perfect family.  The perfect family doesn’t exist.

Parents of JV students your child has been challenged by the covenant student ministry team to think about life in their own family, families that consist of imperfect people like you and I.  The JV students were given the opportunity to think together about these two questions:  how do I live and interact with the family God has placed me in?  How do I find a way to be a part of my family, instead of just surviving and dreaming of the day when I move out?

In the next week or two be intentional about visiting with your child about what life was like in your family, the positive memories along with some of the challenges.  Think about the areas in your life where you have had to grow as a result of the imperfections of your parents.  Allow your teen to see how you are striving to grow so they can understand how to confront their own limitations and pursue personal growth and faith.

Someday your child may become a parent.  Think about what you can model today with this child that will equip them to be a great parent.   Allow your imperfections to be seen.  God can use even our weakness to work out His good plans for our kids.  Pray that your honesty in these moments with your child will strengthen the bond between you.

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Doug Giese

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