Reggie Joiner in his book Think Orange has a chapter entitled Family Times. In this chapter Reggie has identified four significant times that we have each day with our kids. They are morning time, meal time, drive time and bed time. In the next four articles I will be sharing some ideas of what to do during these times. These times each day can be something the family can look forward to, not dread.
Morning Time – Morning time for most people young and old is not the time of day they look forward to. I heard a non-morning person once say, “Whenever I get up, it is always a ½ hour too early.” A non-morning person just needs some time to transition into their day. This transitional time is often enjoyed alone, sipping on a cup of hot coffee. Those who are non-morning people don’t like to be rushed or greeted with a loud cheerful voice early in the morning. They enjoy peace and quiet as they wake up and when there is need for conversation they are willing to converse about the essentials like, time of departure or other details important for family members to know.
Then there are those obnoxious few, from a non-morning person’s perspective who love mornings. The “morning person” can wake up quickly and be humming a tune before their even out of bed. They are ready to visit with anyone who is willing to listen. So, how do parents make morning time something to look forward to for the entire family knowing that each of us handle mornings differently? Below are 4 suggestions of how you can make morning time something to look forward to as a family.
- Respect Each Other – Morning people need to remember that your non-morning family members need some space. Don’t try to force conversation early in the morning. Think of ways that you can be helpful to your family. Offer to serve family members but don’t force it. Say things like this, “As you get ready for school is there anything that I can do that would be helpful?” Non-morning person’s need to work hard at being gracious and kind when asking for more space in the morning.
- Plan Ahead – Parents, you may need to start waking up earlier than your children so you can be ready for your day and at your best. Morning time is when your child needs your patience the most as they are waking up and getting ready for their day. If your child has a hard time transitioning into their day, they might have to be woken up earlier, providing more time for them to get ready and not be late for school. Most children do not want to be pushed or rushed early in the morning. Work with your child at bed time to organize things needed for the next day. This will help minimize tension in the morning.
- Words of Encouragement – Kids and adults encounter all sorts of challenges in their day. Morning time is a great time to express words of encouragement. Encouragement speaks value into the life of your child and spouse. Think of ways you can encourage each other. These are some examples of how to express words of encouragement, “I hope your math test goes well today. What time is your test? I will be pray for you”. “You sure look nice today!”
- Creating Conversation –If you eat breakfast together allow conversation to flow freely. Don’t try to force family members to talk. Think of good questions to ask like, “Is there anything that makes you feel nervous as you go off to school today?” “You told me last week that your friend broke their arm. How are they doing?”
Keep thinking about ways that you can make morning time a time to be enjoyed.