Hide: Dealing with Pain

Posted by Jim Murphy on Friday, June 6, 2014 @ 2:55 PM

God can turn something broken into something beautiful. 

1 Peter 5:6-11 

Life can be a roller coaster sometimes. One week is great. The next week is terrible. And it seems like it's always something different that makes or breaks it: your dating life (or lack of it), how you played in the big game, how well you did on the test, and a million other things. Most of us try to enjoy the good moments and hide from the bad ones. The problem is, because we have sin in all our lives throughout history, no matter how we try to hide it, cover it, or stuff it away, pain is a part of life. It's something we all experience. Maybe it’s the pain of not fitting in, not getting enough playing time on the team, having a broken family, being bullied, not being able to get better grades, whatever. There are all kinds of pain. But that doesn't mean we have to be stuck in it forever. There is a way through the mess. And if we're willing to allow Him in, God can use the most broken parts of our lives to build something beautiful.

Three steps to dealing with pain:

  1. Stop. Don’t turn to destructive things. A poor response to pain usually causes more pain.
  2. Invite. Ask God into your pain. God did not intend for us to live with pain. Because we have 
sin in all our lives throughout history, no matter how we try to hide it, cover it, or stuff it away, pain is a part of life. It's something we all experience. However, God wants to help you walk through your pain. You can’t hide from it but you can walk through it with the strength of God supporting you
  3. Replace. Every time you feel pain remind yourself of the promises of God. Recall or look up a memory verse. Recite a phrase, a truth, or a verse to help you remember that God is with you and that your strength comes from him.

Small Group Questions 

  1. What are some of the things that can turn a good day into a bad day for you?

  2. What do most people do when they experience pain or sadness?

  3. What does Peter mean when he refers to God as a firm foundation? How does that build your

    confidence when you face painful circumstances?

  4. What’s one step you can take to deal with your pain instead of hiding from it?

  5. What’s a phrase you can hold on to the next time you experience pain or sadness? 

Conversations at Home

Be sensitive to your teen. What you might call "typical teenaged drama" can actually be quite painful for your teen. When you see her experiencing pain, ask her about it. Ask her about her feelings, the cause of the pain, what she thinks about it, etc. Model number two above by praying with him, inviting God into his painful situation, asking for guidance, wisdom, strength, and courage. Remind your teen of key verses that have brought you encouragement through your painful experiences. And, remember to personally model number one. Do not turn to destructive patterns as a way of dealing with your own pain. Your children will do as they see.

The content of this post is based on curriculum provided by Orange: XP3.
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These posts are from the weekly lessons at Wednesday night FUEL. They are designed to share with you an outline of the content of our discussions, the small group questions, and ideas for conversations at home. Feel free to use these for your own conversations or lessons.

Jim Murphy

Jim Murphy, Associate Pastor, NextGen MinistriesAssociate Pastor NextGen Ministries

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